Marriage and Adoption

Question: My partner and I have been living in a loving relationship for 5years and have our wedding date set for October 2007 will this be a problem regarding adoption?

Congratulations on your upcoming wedding! As I am not a licensed social worker in Australia and not familiar with the specific laws governing adoptions in your country, I will answer generally.

Being in a loving relationship for five years, six by the time of your wedding certainly demonstrates your commitment to one another. It is wonderful that you would like to start a family, as soon as possible, and provide a home for a child who needs one. That said, adopting a child and becoming a parent is a lifelong responsibility. When adopting domestically, a birth mother may look for a couple who has been together for many years, as you and you fianc√©’ have been and not be concerned with the length of you marriage, but usually would like to see a couple in a ‘better’ place than she is emotionally and financially. When adopting internationally; however, there are more stringent guidelines that must be followed regarding age and length of marriage. For example, in Korea you must be married at least 3 years and may not be older than 45, most other countries you must be married at least 1 year and be between the ages of 25-45 years old. So the answer to your question is really no, you’ll most likely just have to wait a little while.
Good luck with your wedding plans and hope your adoption plans work out as well.

Best Regards,
Leslie I. Zindulka, LCSW-R

Ms. Leslie Zindulka, L.C.S.W.-R is a New York State licensed clinical social worker with over a decade of experience in the adoption field. Ms. Zindulka has both personal and professional adoption experience. Ms. Zindulka writes a monthly column for the AdoptionDoctors.com Web site and limits her practice to adoption home studies. Her clients include married couples, singles, stepparents and those over forty. Request a home study consultation