*POST ADOPTION REGRET PHENOMENON

POST ADOPTION REGRET PHENOMENON The writer, an adoptive parent and social worker acknowledges the fulfillment and wide-spread happiness adoption has brought to millions of families. However as adoption becomes a widely accepted part of American life, Adoption Regret Phenomenon, is coming to light. This article is offered with the hope of illuminating this rarely talked about and highly sensitive topic and bringing forth meaningful discussion, services, research and support for those who find themselves in this uncomfortable and painful situation. There exists for a percentage of adoptive families the phenomenon of Adoption Regret in which one partner regrets adoption. Adoption Regret is distinguished from Post-Adoption Depression Syndrome described by Judy Bond in her seminal work of 1995 in that it does not stem from depressive disorder.  Rather its foundation lays in the disappointment and regret with adoption itself.  It may effect those ambivalent prior to adoption who acquiesced, those who perceive a “breach of expectations” in either the “marital contract,” (prior commitment to childlessness), or “breach of expectations” such as a placement which evolved into a special needs. It is hoped that the adoption community will address Adoption Regret in pre and post counseling and in support services; in adoption training programs that include this subject in the curriculum and that researchers begin inquiries into the derivation and remedies for this phenomenon. It is with these recommendations we hope to stem adoption divorce and dissolution, which we hear of from time to time, and insure satisfying family life for all parties–the children and their parents. Written Bt Roberta Kalmar LMSW of www.Adoptiondoctors.com Roberta Kalmar, LMSW specializes in adoption home studies.  She has worked with adoptive families for over 25 years.